By Joleene DesRosiers
Have you ever noticed that you never stick with one emotion for very long? Take anger, for instance. When you become angry with someone, you express that anger for a certain period of time. But, eventually, you let the anger go. It’s often replaced with sadness or frustration because the situation was never resolved. So then you carry on for some time with that frustration. But even that grows old — and before you know it, you end up angry all over again.
This cycle is best illustrated with an infinity sign. If you don’t get out of it, you’ll roll along it’s track, well, to infinity and beyond.
You could escape this trap with distraction. Distraction, however, usually comes in the form of addiction or other unhealthy behaviors and only yields temporary results. You may take this route for a while, but soon, you’ll start looking for another out.
Or, you could change the model of your world. This is the only way out of the trap. Most people have exactly what they expect out of life all figured out in their heads. And when these expectations aren’t met, they get angry, and then frustrated, and then angry, and then frustrated. You need to change your expectations to meet “what is.” And “what is,” is exactly that — what is happening at all times before you, to you and within you. It’s accepting “what is” and rolling with it. What we resist, persists. If you continue to resist the way a particular situation unfolds, you will continue to find yourself lost in the loop. Yet if you accept that it happened and move with the natural flow of things, you’ll find yourself up and out of that loop in no time. Practice this everyday. You’ll find that traffic jams are what they are (and really aren’t so bad), and not making it to the store before it closes really is no big deal.
Somewhere along the line, we learned to get angry at the way certain situations unfold for us. Yet the world has always moved with uncertainty and always will. It’s a matter of finally accepting this and moving with it. You can still love, laugh and live a remarkable life. The best part is that you’ll be able to do it better than ever.